Well for me, life’s going on with more hiccups but some fun too, busier but with new learning too, tougher but with more… errm wait, what’s my life if it’s not tough. Don’t remember when was the last time that it was simple, or as per plan or easy. But whatever it is, it’s going on. More on some key changes in my life this year in my next post. As of now, I’m back with my talking parrot series with the little one :).
Motherhood & Guilt (Talking Parrot – 2)
January 31, 2014Last day of the first month of 2014! Wow, time flying, running and what not. So, what’s up with you all? Hope you had a great start to the new-year.
Early morning I was standing in the balcony when suddenly I heard the gas lighter being clicked. Surprised I wondered who was in the kitchen, as husband had gone for his morning run and little one was sleeping. Immediately I rushed inside only to be completely horrified by what I saw next. The little dude had pulled a small stool near the kitchen slab, stood on it, had switched on the gas burner and was clicking the lighter from a distance. Oh god! I can’t explain how scared I got for a moment. Immediately I pulled him down, switched off the knob and got mad at him. I shouted for good a minute or two I think – “why didn’t you call me when you woke up, why do you try to do things which are beyond your age, kuch ho jata toh, oh god why can’t he sit peacefully even for a minute, how can a two-year old be so difficult to deal with, blah blah blah & some more blah”.
When I was done with my shouting, little one climbed up on stool again and innocently asked me:
He: Mumma Tai peeogi?
Me: What?
He: Tai Tai (Chai).
Me: Dumbstruck I looked at him silently
He: Aaj Ni Mumma te liye Tai banayega!
Once again I don’t think I can express it in words how I felt at that moment. With welled up eyes, guilt within, I looked at his innocent expression. And within seconds my emotions took hundred and eighty degree turn! Thousands of thoughts flashing across my mind – why wasn’t I more patient, why did I get irritated without trying to understand what he was trying to do and many more… Gawd, motherhood is one hell of a complicated thing. Apart from making your emotional gland hyperactive, it also makes this emotion known as “guilt” super productive. You do whatever, this damn guilt doesn’t leave you at peace!
While the sensible brain told me that I reacted for all right reasons, after all within few seconds something really bad could have happened with that gas stove on but the emotional side kept on telling me – has anyone ever offered you tea in the morning since you left your mom’s house? Wasn’t it the sweetest thing a two year old could think of doing for you? It was, it really was…
Jack
Kanupriya,
His act shows love he has for you. You reacted just normal as had the lighter worked it would have been a disaster. However do try to make him understand what he should not do with logic & love. You will be surprised how much he would understand and not do what you tell him not to. Never say NO as that would make him curious and will try to do it when you are not watching but if you have reasoned it out he would not do it any time. I could go on this but will stop now. Please give my love to him with a hug.
Take care
Renu
OMG..little ones and their love for mom..so cute..
Abhishek Asthana
🙂 This must be one hell of an amazing incident. And he loves you so much!
You know what, I am so glad I have a girl and she loves me more than she loves her mom so I am pretty sure whenever she attempts this, it will be for me 🙂
KParthasarathi
Your reaction to his scary attempt is justified and he would know that this is not to be done anymore.Gentle disciplining without spanking at the appropriate time immediately after the incident and not talking about it later leaves an impact.You did well
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KParthasarathi
Your reaction to his scary attempt is justified and he would know that this is not to be done anymore.Gentle disciplining without spanking at the appropriate time immediately after the incident and not talking about it later leaves an impact.You did well
I have two blogs
http://www.kparthas.blogspot.com (stories)
http://www.kpsarathi.blogspot.com (thoughts)